EVERYONE HAS THIS PRICELESS
GIFT--BUT FEW DISCOVER IT!
If you are one of those people who is having a hard time
being happy, here is a crash course in chipping away at the
barriers that keep you from enjoying life right now.
1. Take nothing too seriously.
Nature doesn't stand still and neither do you. All of your
experiences, whether great or crappy, will pass. Everything
that
happens is just an instant of time. We give it meaning and
can
choose how we want to feel about it. Several Hurricane Katrina
survivors interviewed on CNN said that even though they lost
most
of their possessions, they were happy and most grateful to
be
alive.
Whatever happens, choose to be happy anyway. Why? Because
feelings
of dissatisfaction only contribute to the negative drama in
our
lives and can only make a bad day worse.
2. Eliminate the phrase, "But it's so hard..."
This type of statement may seem harmless, but keeps you stuck
in
the past. Justifying yourself keeps you from where you want
to be.
Better to take the same energy and use it to align with how
you
want to learn to be instead. If you really want to be happy,
align
your thoughts and your feelings to being happy.
Each moment, each hour, each day can be a new beginning with
a
fresh slate. You CAN reinvent yourself. Observe the qualities
of
happy people. Once identified, adopt them into your life.
You can
easily integrate them by day-dreaming about already having
these desired traits.
3. Be true to yourself.
It's been said that the fastest road to failure is to try
to
please everyone. People-pleasing behavior will make you feel
miserable because it's impossible to sustain pleasing others.
Know your values and make decisions based on what's important
to you. If you don't, you'll be living someone else's life,
not
yours.
The people that agree with you, will adore you; the ones
that
disagree, will deplore you. None of it has anything to do
with
you. Remember, what other people think of you is none of your
business.
4. Let go of your "shoulds."
Shoulds generate negative thinking and exhaust energy. If
you
can't turn your shoulds into wants, drop them. Also, be aware
of the shoulds you have for others (He or she should do this
of
be that...). When you think in this way, you are arguing with
reality because it isn't that way. If you insist on keeping
these
shoulds because you are "right," then you are making
another wrong.
It's actually a judgment. A judgment is comprised of emotion
and
lack of information. Think of it this way, unless you are
God,
you cannot be all knowing.)
The next time you are tempted to be right, ask yourself,
"Do I want
to be right or do I want to be happy?" Make wrongs do
not generate
happy feelings.
In summary, know that your happiness is within you right
now,
waiting for you to give it permission to surface. By focusing
on
each of the steps listed above, you will clear the clouds
and rays
of happiness will begin to shine through.
[If you found this information helpful, you'll want to get
a copy
of "Less Drama, More Fun" by Barbara McRae, MCC
where ever
books are sold or contact us.]
c) 2005 Barbara McRae, MCC. All rights reserved.
If you wish to reprint this article, please contact me at
barbara@enhancedlife.com. Thank you!
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